You are asking, Priya: "Is it possible to be married and to be free?"
普利亚，你问：“结婚后还保持自由,可能吗?”
If you take marriage non-seriously, then you can be free. If you take it seriously, then freedom is
impossible. Take marriage just as a game -- it is a game. Have a little sense of humor, that it is a role you
are playing on the stage of life; but it is not something that belongs to existence or has any reality -- it is
a fiction.
轻松地看待婚姻，自由是可能的；严肃地看待婚姻，自由绝不可能。把婚姻就看作游戏——它是个游戏。多一点幽默感，它
只是你在人生舞台上扮演的一个角色；并不属于存在，也没有真实性——它是个虚构。
But people are so stupid that they even start taking fiction for reality. I have seen people reading fiction
with tears in their eyes, because in the fiction things are going so tragically. It is a very good device in the
movies that they put the lights off, so everybody can enjoy the movie, laugh, cry, be sad, be happy. If there was
light it would be a little difficult -- what will others think? And they know perfectly well that the screen is
empty -- there is nobody; it is just a projected picture. But they forget it completely.
但人们如此愚蠢，居然把虚构当作现实。我看见，人们读小说，悲惨的故事让他们流泪。播放电影时，把灯关掉，这样做很
好，因此每个人能享受这部电影，欢笑、哭泣、伤心、快乐。如果灯开着，这就有点难——如果表露情绪，别人会怎么想？他们
知道得很清楚，屏幕空无一物——没有人，只是投影的图像。但他们完全忘了这个事实。
And the same has happened with our lives. Many things which are simply to be taken humorously, we take so
seriously -- and from that seriousness begins our problem.
我们的生活里，也发生同样的事。很多事情，只须幽默看待，我们却那么严肃——结果问题纷至沓来。
In the first place, why should you get married? You love someone, live with someone -- it is part of your
basic rights. You can live with someone, you can love someone.
首先，你为什么要结婚呢？你爱某人，与某人一起生活——这都是你的基本权利。你能与某人一起生活，你能爱某人。
Marriage is not something that happens in heaven, it happens here, through the crafty priests. But if you
want to join the game with society and don‘t want to stand alone and aloof, you make it clear to your wife or to
your husband that this marriage is just a game: "Never take it seriously. I will remain as independent as I was
before marriage, and you will remain as independent as you were before marriage. Neither I am going to interfere
in your life, nor are you going to interfere in my life; we will live as two friends together, sharing our joys,
sharing our freedom -- but not becoming a burden on each other. And any moment we feel that the spring has
passed, the honeymoon is over, we will be sincere enough not to go on pretending, but to say to each other that
we loved much -- and we will remain grateful to each other forever, and the days of love will haunt us in our
memories, in our dreams, as golden -- but the spring is over. Our